Category Archives: Relationships

Valentine’s Day? No thanks.

Valentine's Day? No Thanks

Valentine’s Day has never been a big day for me and hubby. Perhaps it’s because Valentine’s day is not celebrated in Brazil (where I’m originally from); perhaps it’s because I smelled consumerism from a mile away the minute I heard about this holiday. Perhaps it’s both.

Whatever the reason might be, early on in our relationship I let my then-boyfriend (now husband) know that I neither expected nor wanted anything for Valentine’s Day, save maybe a letter or a card. And this was not a test; I actually meant what I said (why do women do that? “Test” their partners? Mean what you say, please).

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An open letter to those sharing anti-immigration sentiments on Facebook.

The following post isn’t about writing. It isn’t about following dreams (well, at least not directly). But something has been on my mind since seeing a terrible meme on Facebook, and I needed to get these words out there. I was too disappointed for words after seeing someone who is supposedly a friend post anti-immigration sentiments on Facebook. What does that say about our supposed friendship? How does this person truly see me? Why is there this hatred of people in search of a better life, who are fleeing from unspeakable acts of violence? It is this kind of hatred and prejudice that creates the need for refugees to immigrate in the first place. Please, take the time to read my letter, and really consider the impact of your posts on social media before clicking the next share button on such a thoughtless meme.

Please note that this letter is my sole opinion and sentiment and does not represent the views of the Canadian Naval Reserves or any other military branch.

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Me and my wonderful husband (then boyfriend) at my citizenship ceremony in 2004.

An open letter to those sharing anti-immigration sentiments on Facebook.

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How to motivate yourself to write when you have no support system

How to motivate yourself to write

 

Like I said in a previous post, there is no shortage of naysayers discouraging me from my dream.

The hardest part about pursuing something that isn’t a “traditional” job is that often, the people closest to you are the ones squashing your dreams, even if they don’t quite realize it. They mean well, they really do. They truly don’t believe that what you want is sustainable, or that you’ll get anywhere, because this is a very difficult field to make money in (because you know, that’s still how our society measures success – by how much money you make). They want the best for you and don’t want to see you get hurt, or fail.

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