How I got my very first submission accepted into a large multi-author blog

How I got my very first submissionpicture

When I told some people close to me that I wanted to be a writer, there was no shortage of negative comments and discouragement.

“It’s a really hard field to get into,” “Everyone wants to be a writer,” “You’ll never make any money doing that,” and comments of the type were pretty standard.

The naysayers can really get to you. They’re probably the reason I ended up moving away from writing in the first place.

I’ve been writing everything from children’s stories, to poetry, to nonfiction and argumentative essays since I learned to write. I’ve always enjoyed it; writing is one of the few things that really helps me focus and gives me great joy. For some reason, I was encouraged to move away from writing and to pursue a “more realistic” career. My goal is to not do this to my children. If they have an interest in an area that’s not commonly pursued as “realistic,” my goals is to help them pursue it to the best of their ability. But I digress.

It was really hard to ignore these naysayers, but I tried to push away all that negativity and I did the work anyway. And it worked.

I submitted an article to a very large blog and it was accepted on the first go. Words can’t express how awesome that felt; to know that putting in the work and ignoring those who don’t share my vision paid off in the long run.

Writing is a profession filled with rejection. So, when I submitted my first article, I braced for my first rejection e-mail. And instead, only a couple of days later, I got my first acceptance e-mail. I was so excited!

Here are the 6 things that helped me get my very first submission accepted into a large multi-author blog that has had over 60 million unique visitors to date – The Good Men Project.

1. I avoided “paralysis by analysis.”

In Tim Ferris’ book, The 4-hour-workweek, he advises that we avoid “paralysis by analysis.” In the information age, it’s so easy to get sidetracked from our goals by the unending barrage of information on how to reach those goals. We get overwhelmed with everything we should be doing, and we end up doing nothing at all.

The first thing I did when I decided to pursue writing seriously was to “unplug” from any and all unhelpful sources of information. I left many an e-mail list during this time.

2. I found an inspiration that wasn’t full of BS.

I mentioned in passing to my brother that I wanted to pursue writing more seriously, and he recommended some successful authors I should follow. My brother, a successful podcaster and author himself, is usually full of good business advice, so I decided to check out his recommendations, and it paid off. I now only follow a handful of people. Here’s my list of the 5 people you should follow if you’re starting a writing career. Of course, you can also sign up for the Writing Pays Newsletter to receive advice and writing prompts from this blog, too. And if you’re ready to invest in your career, you can also sign up for my premium course, The Complete Beginner’s Guide to Getting Paid for Your Writing.

Since deciding to pursue writing more seriously, I have left every single e-mail list I had previously subscribed to, because none of them were actually helping me; they were just bombarding me with marketing. I’ve since signed up for some good ones, but I immediately leave them if they don’t immediately provide me with good value.

Find the author who inspires you (and who has actually made it as an author), and soak in all that inspiration. Follow through on the amazing advice he/she gives you, along with honing your craft, and you will get results.

The Internet is full of people telling you how to make money online. The majority of these people make money by telling you how to make money. Find someone who does what you actually want to do for a living, and use them as your inspiration to get started on your journey to be published.

3. I followed the rules.

Editors don’t like people who don’t pay attention to detail. Often, the sites to which you want to submit your writing have very specific rules on how to make submissions. Some sites are very specific on how to format your article, and also give you specific tips on the articles most likely to get published.

Read these, and pay close attention to everything the site is asking you to do. Then do those things. At this point in my writing career (read: so, so, so, new), my work load is about 80% research and only 20% actual writing. I write all the time, of course, because I love doing it, but the writing for submission takes a backseat to actually researching the sites on which I hope to be published.

I credit this close attention to detail to getting my very first submission accepted to the site of my choosing.

4. I didn’t follow the rules.

I didn’t submit my article in the exact same way the site asks authors to do it. This time around, I actually answered a call for submissions (being connected with the right people helped me in this regard). I’m pretty new at this game, but I would think you’re more likely to get published if a site is actually looking for submissions at the time you send your article in. That’s not to say you shouldn’t submit articles that haven’t been solicited; I’m just relating my experience.

In submitting the article, I broke some of the rules for submissions. I did; however, do exactly what the person asking for the submissions was asking me to do. It paid off.

5. I started ignoring the naysayers (and I stopped updating them).

I mentioned the gist of what I was going to write about to someone close to me, and their lack of enthusiasm could have stopped me dead in my tracks in the past. Now, I’m ignoring the naysayers. It’s so hard for me; I am working really hard on building thick skin, but I still have a long way to go. Past problems have made it difficult for me to face criticism without internalizing it; it’s difficult for me to separate my actions from my person. I’m working on it, and I’m making progress. It’s hard to ignore the naysayers, but when I finally said to myself that I was good enough (and really believed it), I sent in that submission, and good things came of it.

I know that there will be a lot of rejection coming my way. I’m ready for it. Because I know that those rejections will pave the way for me to become a better writer, and to be published on even more sites.

6. I love writing so much that I’m willing to do it for free.

Seeing my name on a huge site like The Good Men Project was a huge rush. It didn’t come with a paycheque. And despite what Wil Wheaton says, I’m OK with that.

Do I wish huge sites like the Huffington Post would pay their contributors, at least in part? Sure. But that’s not the world we live in. And if you think about it, writing is no different than any other profession. Nowadays, before you take on any skilled job, you usually have to do at least some volunteering or training for free before you get a “real job.” It’s part and parcel of becoming an adult and a professional in any field.

The way I look at it, I love writing so much that I don’t care if I get paid to do it. Of course, the goal is to eventually turn it into something that can sustain my family, so we can “quit our day jobs” and be together more often, but to get there, I will need to do a lot more training to become a more skilled writer (and a more recognized one).

If you’re not so passionate about something that you love doing it even without getting paid, then maybe it’s not worth pursuing. If you’re doing something just for the money, eventually you’ll become annoyed at having to do it, lose your passion, and give up.

I think writing for free for the time being, to gain experience and to get my name out there, is perfectly fine. It’s fun, and it will lead to paid work eventually. After all, that’s how many successful authors start out.


I got my very first submission published on a very large site, because I was willing to put in the work, ignore the naysayers, follow good sources of information and ignore the bad, and because I’m doing something I’m passionate about.

Are you truly passionate about writing? Do you also want to be published on a large site? What steps will you take to make sure this happens?

When will you submit your first article? To which publication? Let me know in the comments below.








  1. Hi Mariana, I would love to read a blog post about what blogs and websites you recommend for writing. I am working on getting passed the naysayers and trying to figure out what I want to write about (I have so much I’d like to say I guess). Keep at it!

    1. Hey girl!

      You should so totally write about your awesome adventures! Or about everything and anything your heart desires! If you haven’t already, sign up for the Writing Pays newsletter – I’ll be announcing a mastermind group for versatile writers soon. It’ll be free and it’ll help people like us to be successful and stay accountable while we grow in our writing careers. I’ll also write a blog post soon about the writing blogs I follow 🙂

      Talk soon,


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